Boyfriends Don’t Get BJs

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Unless You TRULY Want To!!!

          Raise your hand, if you’ve been in a situation where your partner who had a penis, wanted to receive your golden throat, without giving back in return? Did you begrudgingly agree, thinking you would get yours next time only for it happen over and over again leaving you frustrated (maybe dryer) and wanting more?  “They” say doing the same thing over and over, and expecting a different result is the definition of insanity. If that’s the case girl are you crazy? If giving only and not receiving does not get you off (for some it does), why are you doing it? Sure you love and care about your partner, but how much do you love yourself? Would you get into a cold car in the middle of winter and expect to just take off? Of course not, so why treat a car better than your own body?

YOU DESERVE PROPER FOREPLAY 

          You deserve to be able to have an open and honest conversation with your partner about your needs before, during, and after all sexual activity. If you feel like you can’t have that conversation with them, then ask yourself, do they really deserve your body? You’ve got to love yourself first before you can adequately give love to anyone else, especially in the bedroom. Trust me if your partner is aware that a kiss here, a rub there a nibble somewhere else, will make the sex wetter, longer, LOUDER 9 times out of 10 they will be on board with, or at least attempt in your favor. If they flat out refuse, then I ask again, do they really deserve your body? You deserve proper foreplay and you deserve all the pleasure you desire. If you can put your mouth on that penis, you can use that same mouth to voice your desires. Sex should never be one sided. T told you so.

 

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Don’t be afraid to start over

Maybe this is you, or you know somebody that’s been in a not so good relationship, but refuses to get out because of how much time has been ‘invested’ in the relationship. The on again off again, the breaks, the space, all to just try to make it work ‘again’ knowing it won’t. For what? 

Humans are creatures of habits, sure we like our routines and hate to be uncomfortable, but at what cost? Yes starting over is hard, and can really suck. Learning knew favorites, likes and dislikes, birthdays and holidays can all be overwhelming, in the beginning, but can you really put a price on your sanity and piece of mind? If you’re reading this and thinking, this is me ask yourself why do I keep doing this to myself? 

Being afraid of the unknown is ok, but loving a relationship more than you love yourself is not. You are more than a partner to someone else, remember you were an individual before they came into your life, and you will continue to be an individual throughout or even after the relationship. 

Tia Evans, MSW, MEd, LCSW Relationship and Sexuality Therapist.