Don’t be afraid to start over

Maybe this is you, or you know somebody that’s been in a not so good relationship, but refuses to get out because of how much time has been ‘invested’ in the relationship. The on again off again, the breaks, the space, all to just try to make it work ‘again’ knowing it won’t. For what? 

Humans are creatures of habits, sure we like our routines and hate to be uncomfortable, but at what cost? Yes starting over is hard, and can really suck. Learning knew favorites, likes and dislikes, birthdays and holidays can all be overwhelming, in the beginning, but can you really put a price on your sanity and piece of mind? If you’re reading this and thinking, this is me ask yourself why do I keep doing this to myself? 

Being afraid of the unknown is ok, but loving a relationship more than you love yourself is not. You are more than a partner to someone else, remember you were an individual before they came into your life, and you will continue to be an individual throughout or even after the relationship. 

Tia Evans, MSW, MEd, LCSW Relationship and Sexuality Therapist.