Don’t be afraid to start over

Maybe this is you, or you know somebody that’s been in a not so good relationship, but refuses to get out because of how much time has been ‘invested’ in the relationship. The on again off again, the breaks, the space, all to just try to make it work ‘again’ knowing it won’t. For what? 

Humans are creatures of habits, sure we like our routines and hate to be uncomfortable, but at what cost? Yes starting over is hard, and can really suck. Learning knew favorites, likes and dislikes, birthdays and holidays can all be overwhelming, in the beginning, but can you really put a price on your sanity and piece of mind? If you’re reading this and thinking, this is me ask yourself why do I keep doing this to myself? 

Being afraid of the unknown is ok, but loving a relationship more than you love yourself is not. You are more than a partner to someone else, remember you were an individual before they came into your life, and you will continue to be an individual throughout or even after the relationship. 

Tia Evans, MSW, MEd, LCSW Relationship and Sexuality Therapist.

Why is Sex Taboo?

shhWhy do you think sex is Taboo? I think sex is taboo because of older beliefs and values on sex as whole. Sex was only meant to be discussed with a person and their partner. Even further back in the day sex was not even discussed it was chore, point blank. So now in the United States there is a stigma towards sex, even more so in minority communities. In some cultures sex is a no no to talk about between the generations. Parents would only have that ‘basic’ talk about sex to their children that would usually often end in more questions asked than solved. But we are undeniably sex driven human. It is normal for us to talk about sex, to think, read, watch it even so, and that is ok. So you tell me what do you think? Why is sex taboo?

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Tia Evans, MSW